When she's around, most of us pray for their death due to them being a nagger and for some get physically/verbally abused by their mother.
No matter the amount of nagging, beating or verbal abuse that we get from our mother, it will never be a comparison to them risking their life for us to see this world.
You might instantly says in your heart, "I've never asked to be born". I do agree with you. You were never asked to be born by her. She did it with her own free will. In which, that makes it even better. She did it all out of LOVE.
How many of you now have nice life? Good job, at the very least able to take care of yourself?
Without your mother fighting between life and death for you to see this earth, you will never get to experience all these awesome things that you've experienced. Making you wiser every step of the way.
No matter the amount of wealth that you combine from the entire universe, it will never be able to cover all the love and sacrifices that your mother have made for you.
If you think that the nice life now that you've achieved is because of your own efforts, then that's where you go absolutely wrong.
A mothers blessings is the utmost importance in God's list. Everything that they asked for there's no 'hijab' to it. Everything is granted.
Let it be known, even if your mother is not the type that is lovey dovey, a hugger or a kisser towards you, she always pray for your wellness in life. She always pray that you achieve the best that you have worked for. She always asked from God to take care of you when she's not around.
Mother's words can be hurtful sometimes. But we can just listened and not take it to heart. She only says things and react that way just because in her mind it's right.
The normal sayings is customers is always right.
Why not, from today onwards, make it an effort to bear in mind that:
Mothers is always right.
If you feel hurt, just walk away when she have done saying whatever she feels a need to say to you and you don't even utter a word just to get the satisfaction of hurting her back. It's not worth it!
Honestly, I'm one of those child that were very defiant. I will say things that will only satisfy my ego. Feeding my ego too much losing my mind and flaring up n my parents.
But one day, I've asked God to make me dumb whenever my mom opens her mouth to nag and hurts my feelings. Subhanallah....I became dumb for that very moment. All the words I wanted to say to her, I just couldn't say it. I am grateful for that. It means God listens and answers my doa.
No one can change in a blink of an eye or over night. Changes takes time.
When we are awakened, the process of changes that we want to make is faster because it comes in the package of mind and heart. Not only just the mind and walk all over others hearts.
Don't be busy taking care of others heart, or your lovers heart. Take care of your mom's heart and the rest of your life journey will be easier because you make it easy for your mom to sleep well at night not flooded with tears.
May Allah make it easy for you to please your mother till her last breath.
Your mom is chosen by God and she's ABSOLUTELY PERFECT for you no matter what you think of her because your opinion don't matter at all when your creator have made the choice for you.