Some people like mess (they can find things better).
Some people deal with mess.
To me mess is just a sign that there's people around us that still alive, breathing and living. Or for that matter, we are still alive (for those messy lovers).
We can't change people over night or can't change them at all. So we have to come to a point to deal with it, live and breathe in it.
You know why?
Love!
Yes! You need to love that person enough to live in it. Try as much to keep it nice but not to change much as not to hurt the person's feelings. Especially when that person is your parents.
I have a dad that's a hogger. He will keep the tiniest things to the biggest things that he find 'worth' keeping. Worth and cost are two separate things. What's worth to you might be junks to others.
Whatever I've seen as junks is valuable to my dad. I can't just dump everything away just because I see it's worthless. It's his belongings that I shouldn't mess around with.
As how I hate people mess with my stuff, that much I won't do to others.
As much as I want to keep this house clean and tidy, that much and even more I want to take care of his heart. I only have 3 hearts to take care of at the utmost priority of my list. I can't mess up on this.
Taking care of the hearts of our loved ones is far much more complex and important than taking care of a messy home. I'll rather not mess the heart and have a slight cluttered home.
I still can live with it. I constantly have to make peace with myself that it is how he is and I have to accept it even though it's a pain looking at those clutters.
I love him enough and more, than me wanting the house to decluttered and throw away his 'junks'.
I need to constantly declutter my heart and mind to accept that it is what it is.
Taking care of a heart is more important than a decluttered home.
May you and I be granted the highest capacity of love to be a soul charger for people that passes by our live especially our loved ones.